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Competitive Misery

by Johna Hansen, L.C.S.W.

After arguing with someone the other day, I couldn’t get the song “Anything you can do, I can do better” out of my head.  Some of the lyrics are:

“Anything you can be, I can be greater!
Sooner or later I’m greater than you!

[Annie:] No, you’re not!
[Frank:] Yes, I am!
[Annie:] No, you’re not!
[Frank:] Yes, I am!
[Annie:] No, you’re not!
[Frank:] Yes, I am, Yes, I am!”

I laughed while reviewing these lyrics because just as these lyrics don’t have a resolution, neither did my argument with this person. … Read more...

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Thank You for Riding with the MTA

by Amanda Rosinski, M.A.

In New York City, the public transportation system is heavily relied upon by millions of daily riders. Public transportation can be so helpful, but can also be quite challenging. Recently, I was attempting to ride the train to school so that I could go to my class, but I soon realized that the commute on this particular day was going to be less helpful and more challenging. I waited a few minutes for my train, and then it pulled into the station.… Read more...

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The Joy of Calling Customer Service

by Stephanie Schwartz, M.S. 

Last week I had a technical issue with my laptop. I called the company that I purchased it from and described the problem. I was told that a technical support associate would be able to assist me at their in person help center and made an appointment. However, soon after arriving to the appointment I was told that what I was looking for help with was something that they could not do.… Read more...

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Reason vs. Emotion

by Mark Schiffman, M.S. 

Many of us go around thinking that we would be better off not feeling any emotion – “I should be reasoned and well-thought out and emotion just gets in the way of being rational and productive!”  We try to limit or completely suppress any and all emotions so we can stay “Spock like” in our decision making. The problem is that this conception that reason and emotion are in a battle, dueling for the right to make our decisions is unhelpful and untrue.… Read more...

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Deadlines Schmeadlines

by  Megan Sy, M.S.

“I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.” –Douglas Adams
Over the years, I have developed a love-hate relationship with deadlines. For many projects and tasks, deadlines do a good job at motivating me to get moving. In fact, I am often a “precrastinator” and prefer to complete things right away rather than wait. But there are times and certain tasks where I am content to sit idly by and watch the days pass until the deadline is a stone’s throw away.… Read more...
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Stolen Souvlaki

by Rosina Pzena, M.S.

This morning I was really looking forward to bringing leftovers for lunch today. It was going to be great – yummy Greek food, and I didn’t have to prepare anything myself or spend any more money. So you can imagine my shock when I opened the fridge this morning, and my food was gone! I was immediately angry at the idea that someone else in my family was eating MY lunch and I started cursing to myself in the middle of the kitchen at 8amRead more...

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One Post-it Note at a Time

by Johna Hansen, LCSW

While preparing to work on certain projects around my home over the weekend, I had an extremely long to-do list in my mind: do the laundry, do the dishes, make bread, pick up groceries, paint a room, clean the kitchen, etc.  I mean there were like 1000 things (okay, maybe I’m exaggerating just a little) on my mental list for just one day. I believed I must get all 1000 things done that day which made me feel angry because there was a possibility that I wouldn’t finish everything.… Read more...

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The Zebra and the Ulcer

by Raymond Moody, M.A. 

When I first started working at the Albert Ellis Institute I was asked to pick an animal name. Throughout my training in graduate school I learned about the negative impacts of stress on health and I learned that different animals process stress in different ways. For example, the salmon experiences an incredible amount of stress swimming up-stream during the spawning season. This stress takes a serious toll on the health of the salmon, making it more susceptible to disease and death.… Read more...

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Getting Me To Go To The Dentist Is Like Pulling Teeth…Take Two

by Kristene A. Doyle, Ph.D.

I just got back from the dentist 3 ½ years after posting this original blog (sigh, and lower head in shame).  When I called, the receptionist asked for my name and she punched it into the computer.  As a preemptive strike, I admitted it had been a looooong time, and asked her not to judge.  She responded: “I don’t judge.  We often find us taking care of others before ourselves.  It’s good to have you back.”

What were the chances that the same hygienist 3 ½ years ago who originally chastised me was the one doing my cleaning this morning? … Read more...

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Language Matters

by Megan Sy, M.S. 

In REBT, the language we choose matters significantly. For instance, the difference between a demand and a preference can be viewed simply as a difference in semantics (I should vs. I prefer). Yet this shift in thinking often results in a difference in how we respond emotionally or behaviorally. The choice of words are such a fundamental part of REBT that Ellis credited Alfred Korzybski and the field of general semantics as being a big influence on our theory.

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