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Fear of Flying (Or Is It?)

by Glynnis McDonnell, M.A.

I had to take a flight this past weekend. While I was pretty calm about this flight, it brought back memories about previous experiences with anxiety about flying. Specifically, I was thinking about a cross-country flight to a conference about two years ago that was pretty bumpy the whole way. During that flight, I found myself shaking with each patch of rough air we hit. I tried deep breathing, which was only mildly helpful (likely because it felt as though we hit another big bump every time I started to relax).… Read more...

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Trapped on the M14D

by Stephanie Grossman, M.A.

As a “New Yorker” for the past 4 years, I have learned to expect the realities of NYC living: the rats that run across the street, exorbitant rent, smelly subways etc. Still, I often struggle to accept the daily hassles of NYC life, particularly with regards to commuting. For example, this past weekend I was meeting up with a friend for dinner in Brooklyn. I had already spent the entire day commuting (driving to a local train station in the Philly suburbs, taking the train to the bus station in Philly, 2 hours later on the subway in NYC back to my apartment, and out once again on the subway to Brooklyn).… Read more...

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My Fear Came True

By Tom Kelly, M.S.

In my past blog, I wrote about a meeting that was coming up, and how I kept telling myself, “don’t sound dumb!” This line of thinking was self-critical and unhelpful, so I worked on changing it. I focused on how I would speak with a friend about their fears, and tried my best to be positive.

Since that post, the meeting was held. It included three university professors that I really admire, and had hoped to impress.… Read more...

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Assumptions and Microaggressions

by Kimberly Alexander, M.S.

I am the only individual in my immediate family to graduate with a Bachelors. Therefore, it is particularly meaningful for my family, as well as myself, that I am now pursuing a Doctoral degree. I think my cohort can attest to how difficult graduate work can be at times and how meaningful it will be to say one day, “I graduated with my Doctorate!” However, recently, I found myself bombarded with a variety of statements from different people about my position as a graduate student that sent me in quite the angry tailspin.… Read more...

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The Elegance of an Elegant Solution

by Josh Dredze, Psy.D.

Dr. Albert Ellis believed in the elegant solution. Instead of disputing or reevaluating our problem, we should accept it as true. Rather than worrying I’ll get sick or ill, just accept that you will. The question, though is how is this elegant? If anything, wouldn’t the elegant solution have us feel worse?

Recently in my social life, I faced a decision within a romantic relationship. Do I keep dating this individual or not?… Read more...

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You’re Not Safe, You’re Not Safe

by Thomas Whitfield, M.A.

Last Saturday evening I ruined my entire night with past fears and anxieties haunting me. A couple of friends of mine had invited my boyfriend and me to join their group of approximately 20 friends for an evening in Tarrytown (approximately 45 minutes north of NYC). Plan for the evening included dinner, drinks, and a walk through a haunted attraction that takes place in the city annually. We were unable to join them for dinner, but made it in time for drinks and the walk.… Read more...

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Pragmatism at the Dentist

by Glynnis McDonnell, M.A.

Yesterday, I went to the dentist…and I HATE going to the dentist. I’m not afraid of going. I have pretty healthy teeth, so I don’t have any horror stories of root canals gone wrong. I just find it exceptionally annoying. You have to sit in an uncomfortable chair with your mouth hanging open while a stranger scrapes your teeth for half an hour. To be honest, I don’t really have any irrational beliefs about this process.… Read more...

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Prick Me, I can Stand It

by Stephanie Grossman, M.A.  

Ever since I was little, I have been afraid of needles. I have distinct memories of running around the doctor’s office, crying and screaming, trying to avoid a prick on my finger. My fear of this specific finger-pricking device later generalized to similar-looking objects, like staplers, and I never liked to be near them. Despite my attempts to delay doctors’ appointments, the pricks kept coming, and they were unavoidable. Almost every time I would get a shot or get blood drawn, I would experience what felt to me like terror.… Read more...

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Don’t Sound Dumb!

by Tom Kelly, M.S.

This past week I was preparing for an upcoming meeting, creating an outline and highlighting key points. The process of preparing for the meeting made me feel less anxious and more optimistic. I found myself calling colleagues and asking for their opinions on what I was going to present. It was really important to me that I make a good impression during the meeting and display my knowledge, especially because I think highly of those I would be presenting to.… Read more...

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Semester Overload

by Kim Alexander, M.S.

You ever have so much on your plate that you become stagnant in attempting to accomplish any of it? We’re now moving into mid-October and it’s becoming apparent that there are some responsibilities regarding my dissertation proposal, tracking my clinical hours, and simply responding to emails that are falling to the waist side. This coming from the same person a few weeks ago declaring that they are soooo organized and always meets deadlines.… Read more...

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