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Emotional Responsibility

by Mark Schiffman, Psy.D.

Who or what controls your emotions? Do each of your friends and family members have access to your emotional keyboard, with the ability to push your anger, anxiety, shame or depression buttons at any point in time? Do cars, trains, dating apps, long lines, and job searches hold your emotional joystick?  Most of us go around with the notion that “he makes me so angry!” or “she makes me depressed” but one of the central features of any Cognitive Behavior Therapy is that we take responsibility for our own emotions.… Read more...

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Wonder Woman and World Acceptance

by Rosina Pzena, M.S. 

I recently watched the new Wonder Woman movie, and it made a very interesting point about human nature. For some background (spoiler alert, although Wonder Woman has been around since the 1940s) Wonder Woman, or Diana Prince, is not human. She was created by the Greek gods to defend man from evil influences. Therefore, in the context of the film, Diana goes into World War I believing that men are innately good, and that they have been corrupted by the Greek god of war to fight for eternity.… Read more...

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Coffee, Tea, Leg Room?

by Raymond Moody, M.A. 

I am writing this blog aboard a metal tube that is hurling through the air at over 400 miles per hour. I am returning to New York after a very enjoyable weekend with family and friends celebrating the marriage of my cousin. My spirit was really recharged after this weekend. I have been in a great mood for the past few days and I wanted to bring this good mood with me back to the city.… Read more...

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Criticize Away!

by Carly Mayer, M.S. 

Getting criticized is tough, it is hard to hear that we did not do something up to par or that we did something completely wrong, especially when we have worked hard at it. Criticism is even more difficult to swallow when it comes from someone we respect or love. These people often have the best of intentions, but regardless of good intentions, our own beliefs often get in the way of the potential benefits of receiving criticism that may actually be constructive.  … Read more...

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The Perfect Presentation

by Amanda Rosinski, M.A.

I recently completed a presentation for my program at school, which I knew was going to have a large impact on my student status. There are four levels in my program, and successfully completing this presentation would mean that I would move up to a new level. So there were high stakes for this presentation, and as I was preparing for it, I began feeling the pressure of those high stakes. Having a healthy level of concern would be a helpful emotional reaction.… Read more...

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Anxiety about Change

by Stephanie Schwartz, Psy.D.

Many people feel anxious when making big decisions during times of change. Whether it’s a new job or new apartment, with most life transitions there is a choice to be made. Usually there are pros and cons to the different options and one choice isn’t 100% “right.” Thus, there is some degree of uncertainty involved and people may feel anxious about uncertain situations. With any change it is understandable to feel some concern and to have a desire to make a good decision.Read more...

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Vigilante Justice

By Mark Schiffman, Psy.D.

Sometimes I wish I had a superpower. I am not talking in the realm of supernatural Wonder Women or genetically mutated Spiderman, but would settle for a technologically advanced Batman. My goal would not be to save the world from aliens or New York from criminal masterminds.  My aspirations are more modest.  Do you know that frustration that builds up when you are crossing the street and a driver decides that if he just turns fast enough he could make it before he hits you?… Read more...

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Decisions, Decisions

by Megan Sy, M.S.

One of the many benefits of the internet is having the ability to access large amounts of information at once. We live in a world where we can read reviews for doctors’ services, compare dozens of products, and find different ideas or suggestions for how to do anything. The accessibility of information is great in that we can become better consumers. But having all these options can also sometimes create indecision. What if there is something better out there?Read more...

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Homework for Homework

by Raymond Moody, M.A.

Like most people, I have a range of responsibilities and experience stress from the competing demands of work, school, and home. I sometimes get in the habit of focusing on whatever is most urgent. Sometimes I feel like a firefighter, running from fire (i.e., deadline) to fire. I can only imagine that after a day of putting out real fires a firefighter just wants to come home,  relax, eat some good food, and get some rest because that is how I feel most days.… Read more...

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Competitive Misery

by Johna Hansen, L.C.S.W.

After arguing with someone the other day, I couldn’t get the song “Anything you can do, I can do better” out of my head.  Some of the lyrics are:

“Anything you can be, I can be greater!
Sooner or later I’m greater than you!

[Annie:] No, you’re not!
[Frank:] Yes, I am!
[Annie:] No, you’re not!
[Frank:] Yes, I am!
[Annie:] No, you’re not!
[Frank:] Yes, I am, Yes, I am!”

I laughed while reviewing these lyrics because just as these lyrics don’t have a resolution, neither did my argument with this person. … Read more...

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