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My Mother Has Good Days and Bad

by Thomas Whitfield, M.A.

My mother has good days and bad. Over 20 years ago, when I was 10, she underwent brain surgery for treatment of artery vein malformation. Following the procedure, she was an entirely different person, an entirely different mother. As she’s gotten older, her ability to remember new things has greatly decreased. When I call her, or her name comes up on my phone, it’s impossible to know what to expect. She remembers all the big things, but I often have the same conversations over and over with her.… Read more...

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Subway Rage

by Glynnis McDonnell, M.A.

I’m sure any New Yorker would agree that riding the subway provides a slew of opportunities for our irrational beliefs to creep to the surface. While I’ve had many of these experiences, there is a recent one that continued to irk me for a few days after its occurrence, clearly a sign of irrational beliefs that could use some work.

I was on the subway late on a Friday night, and it was pretty crowded.… Read more...

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Why Me?!

By Stephanie Grossman, M.A.

Lately, life hasn’t been going my way. It has been a series of seemingly never-ending critters in my apartment (from mice to likely mites), professional rejections, personal disruptions, and all of the daily hassles in between that just seem to add fuel to the fire of bad luck. As a result, I’ve found myself asking, “Why me!?” Why is it that these unfortunate events appear to pile on, and that despite my perseverative efforts to solve the problems efficiently and thoroughly, it seems I still can’t catch a break.… Read more...

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The Most Wonderful Time of the Year

By Tom Kelly, M.S.

It is holiday time in New York City. The tree is up in Rockefeller Center and the Winter Village is bustling in Bryant Park. The department store windows are decorated along 34th street. The crowds are growing in Midtown Manhattan. It is the most wonderful time of the year. Maybe?

New York City is exceptionally beautiful during this time of year, and it makes complete sense that many travel far distances to experience the local holiday spirit.… Read more...

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‘Tis the Season for Holiday Cheer?

By Kimberly Alexander, M.S.

Well, the holiday season has finally arrived! Holiday décor posted up everywhere… office parties being scheduled and planned for… and the usual conversations about potlucks, gifts, and invites repeat day to day like it’s groundhog’s day. All this happening to spread holiday cheer. It’s a beautiful thing!

However, once typically excited for this time of year, I’m now sullen and a bit anxious at times because I’m constantly surrounded by all of these beautiful things that remind me of my grandmother.… Read more...

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rational emotive BEHAVIOR therapy

by Josh Dredze, Psy.D.

With the summer behind me, well into the academic year, I was able to get into a groove. Between seminars, seeing clients, and research I felt like I was making headway and proceeded full steam ahead. While my weekdays were largely focused on professional pursuits, I began to dedicate more and more of my weekends to career. Slowly, though, I started to lose steam. I felt a bit moody and was losing interest in clinical practice and doing my research.… Read more...

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End of Semester E-mails

by Thomas Whitfield, M.A.

The holidays are slowly creeping up on us and so is the end of yet another semester. Although I am still a student, I am also a teacher. Twice a week I wake up at 6:30am so I can be ready at 8am to begin lecturing to undergrads for 95 minutes. I sincerely love teaching and really enjoy my students. But, there are over 90 of them and a significant amount has not completed nearly enough work to finish the semester shining.… Read more...

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Fear of Flying (Or Is It?)

by Glynnis McDonnell, M.A.

I had to take a flight this past weekend. While I was pretty calm about this flight, it brought back memories about previous experiences with anxiety about flying. Specifically, I was thinking about a cross-country flight to a conference about two years ago that was pretty bumpy the whole way. During that flight, I found myself shaking with each patch of rough air we hit. I tried deep breathing, which was only mildly helpful (likely because it felt as though we hit another big bump every time I started to relax).… Read more...

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Trapped on the M14D

by Stephanie Grossman, M.A.

As a “New Yorker” for the past 4 years, I have learned to expect the realities of NYC living: the rats that run across the street, exorbitant rent, smelly subways etc. Still, I often struggle to accept the daily hassles of NYC life, particularly with regards to commuting. For example, this past weekend I was meeting up with a friend for dinner in Brooklyn. I had already spent the entire day commuting (driving to a local train station in the Philly suburbs, taking the train to the bus station in Philly, 2 hours later on the subway in NYC back to my apartment, and out once again on the subway to Brooklyn).… Read more...

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My Fear Came True

By Tom Kelly, M.S.

In my past blog, I wrote about a meeting that was coming up, and how I kept telling myself, “don’t sound dumb!” This line of thinking was self-critical and unhelpful, so I worked on changing it. I focused on how I would speak with a friend about their fears, and tried my best to be positive.

Since that post, the meeting was held. It included three university professors that I really admire, and had hoped to impress.… Read more...

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