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I Am Not My Hair

by Kimberly Alexander, M.S.

After so many months without any professional input on my hair care, I realized that it was time for a cut. So, I take my time to research salons and identify stylists that have had experience working with curly hair. I even researched reviews on them and their salon and I was finally able to lock down a place I trust… or so I thought.

As I made the phone call to set up the appointment, it turns out that the time I spent avoiding salons for the past eight months reinforced the fears I had about others managing my hair.… Read more...

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Thwarted Plans

by Glynnis McDonnell, M.A. 

This past Sunday was going to be the perfect, laid back day.  I was going to do a little work, ride my stationary bike, watch some Netflix, and take my dog for a long walk.  It was going to be GREAT!  I planned to do my work and exercise first because those feel like chores, and then let myself relax.

Things started off without a hitch- I woke up, had breakfast, and completed some work. … Read more...

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Hello? Can you hear me now?

by Stephanie Grossman, M.A. 

Over the past few months I have slowly been losing cell service, and somehow also wifi, on my phone in my apartment. Attempts to talk to my parents have consisted of me awkwardly huddled by my bed in the one spot I can hear them best, if at all. And forget about the Instagram, Snapchat, and Pokemon Go apps on my phone (don’t judge)– I couldn’t use those either.

I quickly became angry.…

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by Tom Kelly, M.S.

Summer in New York City can be excruciatingly hot, with a combination of heat and humidity that can stop you in your tracks. Luckily, I am able to come home and turn on an air conditioner to full blast. After a few minutes, my bedroom is cooled off and I have successfully escaped the scorching heat. But this escape comes with a monthly price in the form of a steep electric bill.… Read more...

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When the Coffee is Too Good

by Kim Alexander, M.S.

So goes the Monday morning alarm… loud and early. I move swiftly and spirited. You can tell I just came back from a vacation! I have so much time to burn that I decide to put a little extra care and wear my new gold chain and pendant. Only thing is that I tried to put the slippery little thing on while hovering over the bathroom sink while the faucet was on!… Read more...

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Takeaways and Take-Home Work

by Megan Sy, M.A., M.S. 

Just like that, another training year has whizzed by! Among the things I’ve learned and practiced in the last two training cycles at the Albert Ellis Institute, my three biggest takeaways are as follows:

1) There’s only one thing we can control and it’s not the world or the people around us. Demanding that the world change or that others do as we want them to may seem productive, but in reality the only thing we can really change is ourselves.… Read more...

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Hurry Up and Wait

by Carly Mayer, M.S. 

Imagine this: You’re stuck on the expressway trying to get off at the bridge and the line to exit is long, really long. You wait your turn and finally, after what seems like forever, get up to the front of the line. You look to your left and there are 3 cars nudging their way into your lane. They did not wait on the long line of cars waiting to leave and just pulled themselves right in front as if the fifty cars behind them were invisible.… Read more...

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Phone call from the Principal

by Johna Hansen, L.C.S.W.

While I was at the Albert Ellis Institute one day last week, I received a phone call from the principal at one of my children’s schools.  Immediately, the principal told me that there was no emergency.  So, I remained calm and assumed he was going to ask me to donate money to the school.  Instead, he proceeded to tell me that my son fell off of the monkey bars at school and I should pick him up right away because he and the nurse were afraid my son might have broken his arm.  … Read more...

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New Beginnings

by Amanda Rosinski, M.A.

Although I will be working at the Albert Ellis Institute for two and a half more weeks, tomorrow I also start my new training experience. I will spend the next year working at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. As I began to mentally prepare for the new experience, I found myself feeling a bit stuck. Although it is understandable to feel a healthy level of concern for a new position, I found myself feeling an unhealthy level of anxiety that resulted in this feeling of “stuckness.” Knowing that this unhealthy anxiety is a result of my unhelpful thinking, I started to dig deeper into my thoughts.… Read more...

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Emotional Responsibility

by Mark Schiffman, Psy.D.

Who or what controls your emotions? Do each of your friends and family members have access to your emotional keyboard, with the ability to push your anger, anxiety, shame or depression buttons at any point in time? Do cars, trains, dating apps, long lines, and job searches hold your emotional joystick?  Most of us go around with the notion that “he makes me so angry!” or “she makes me depressed” but one of the central features of any Cognitive Behavior Therapy is that we take responsibility for our own emotions.… Read more...

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