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Kristen Tobias, M.A.

This blog is one of four that will expound on the types of frustration intolerance (FI) discussed in my last entry, Not All Frustrations are Created Equal.

Entitlitis is a word that has insidiously slipped into American vernacular. It refers to a condition afflicting a cohort that, in HIPPA fashion, will remain unidentified (although to be fair, entitlitis is sure to be found across all cohorts). This condition consists of a life philosophy whereby individuals believe that the world and others owe them something, as well as the idea that life should be fair.… Read more...

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Leaving Therapy and Staying on Track

Shonda Lackey, Ph.D.

So, you’ve been in therapy for a while. How do you know when it’s time to leave? Assuming there were no ruptures in the professional relationship with your therapist, you may consider ending treatment once you’ve achieved your treatment goals.

In the REBT Resource Book for Practitioners, there are several signs listed that help people determine if it’s time to end therapy. Here are a few:

Accepting responsibility for your actions

Being satisfied with your progress

Being content with your relationships

Being able to accept yourself

Avoiding self-defeating behavior

Pretty much, a good time to end therapy is when you’ve become your own therapist and can handle problems that occur without getting overwhelmed.… Read more...

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Not All Frustrations Are Created Equal

Kristen Tobias, M.A.

Frustration intolerance (FI), or low frustration tolerance (LFT), refers to a meta-cognitive process wherein individuals think that they cannot stand something. In the theory of REBT, FI is conceptualized as a core irrational belief, or a universal type of thinking that results in psychological disturbance and/or blocked ambitions. These beliefs are held to be self-evident and can arise in response to a number of diverse conditions. This type of thinking produces unhealthy negative emotions such as anger, depression, and anxiety.… Read more...

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Why Life is More Similar to the World Cup Than You Thought

Brooke Guttenberg, M.S.

Over the past month, all over the world, the World Cup has gained a lot of attention. For someone like me who was never a big soccer fan, I was surprised to find that I have been bitten with the soccer bug. As I allowed myself to become engrossed with the latest World Cup news and games, I started noticing that not only is this competition entertaining, but also a great learning tool.… Read more...

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Let Freedom Ring

Shonda Lackey, Ph.D.

Independence Day was this past weekend. It’s a holiday that often involves barbeques, the beach, and fireworks. Many people also pay honor to our veterans and active duty service members. It’s a time to reflect on what it means to live in the United States, land of the free, home of the brave.

But have you ever thought about freedom from the labels that characterize psychological problems? How about the bravery involved in setting up your first therapy appointment and staying the course?… Read more...

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REBT When You’re Winning

Dan Prendergast, M.A.

Because people usually don’t seek out a therapist when times are good, we don’t frequently talk about using REBT principles in the context of successes and victories. However, just because a person’s situation is favorable does not mean that they are not capable of holding dysfunctional beliefs that lead to self-defeating behaviors and emotions such as excessive pride. Ellis described the “elegant solution” as a new belief that works for a person in good or bad circumstances.… Read more...

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Reflections on REBT Techniques

Shonda Lackey, Ph.D.

One of the most powerful and unique aspects of REBT is, perhaps, the differentiation between negative emotions and unhealthy negative emotions. The typical practitioner of REBT does not expect you to feel happy when you experience an unpleasing event. Nor is it expected that you will feel nothing at all. For example, there’s a difference between being sad about breaking up with your boyfriend and getting depressed about it. Holding on to unhealthy negative unhealthy emotions makes problem solving more difficult.… Read more...

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Frustration: Maybe We Can Tolerate It, But What If We Don’t Need To?

By James C. Strickland, Ph.D.

The phrase, “I can’t stand it,” is usually the lamentation of someone experiencing low frustration tolerance (LFT) that can and does lead to dysfunction. Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT) provides us with the help to tolerate higher levels of frustration so we can function more adaptively. Ideally, REBT suggests we change our beliefs and cope with the elegant solution (the worst case scenario) rather than changing or escaping the Activating event.… Read more...

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Reflections on Frustration

By Kristen Tobias, M.A.

Frustration tolerance refers to the ability to withstand difficult or vexing situations/events. Some may have High Frustration Tolerance (HFT) wherein they withstand annoying, even highly annoying, circumstances without getting disturbed (i.e., angry, anxious, depressed, or another emotional problem). In contrast, Frustration Intolerance (FI) or Low Frustration Tolerance (LFT) describes people for whom annoyances engender disturbed feelings, or exhibiting an insufficient amount of tolerance to achieve a desired goal, respectively.

These ideas can apply to a wide range of situations, ranging from the minutia to potentially traumatic events.… Read more...

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Pitfalls of Positive Thinking

By Dan Prendergast, M.A.

Most people would agree that thinking positively is usually related to feeling good, and that feeling good is preferable. However, most of the time I have heard advice to “think positive” or “be positive,” especially from self-help gurus and the media, the advice has been badly delivered. Most typically friends and family give this advice when a bad thing happens, negative emotions result, and a well-meaning person wants someone to be in a better emotional state in the face of misfortune.… Read more...

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