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The “I Cannot” Versus “I Don’t Want to” Debate

by Brooke Guttenberg, M.S.

Sunday morning I woke up and thought to myself, “I just cannot get out of bed.” So then I fell back to sleep. A few hours later I thought, “I cannot go to the gym” and then I watched a movie instead. Later that night I told myself, “I cannot sit down to write this blog” and now I’m writing it on Monday.

Taking a look back on my slightly unproductive Sunday, I recognized that there was a common theme throughout the day.… Read more...

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Revisiting the “A”

by Jennifer Shindman, M.S. 

One of the aspects of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) that distinguishes it from other forms of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is the elegant solution. In following the ABC model, Cognitive Therapy usually first intervenes by tackling the distortions of the perceptions or inferences of the activating event (A). For example, “where is the evidence that you messed up your presentation and that your colleagues hated it? How many presentations have you given in your life, and how many have you messed up?” This line of questioning is known as the inelegant solution.… Read more...

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End-of-Life Demands

  by Kristen Tobias, M.A.

Dr. Ellis routinely acknowledged that we all possess the innate capacity to think both rationally and irrationally—it is part of the human condition.  In addition to the influence of biological predispositions and early life experiences, there may be critical phases of the human lifespan wherein we become more susceptible to thinking irrationally and thereby disturbing ourselves.  The midlife crisis, and the more recently popularized quarter-life-crisis, quickly comes to mind.  The type of contemplation inherent to these life phases may be associated with activation of irrational beliefs about where one should be and what must happen. … Read more...

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Do positive inspirational quotes really work?

by Deniz Sidali, M.A.

“We can go nowhere but up from here my dear.”

So the other night, a friend of mine posts a “positive quote” on social media which she has indicated has miraculously transformed her perceptions about her life. I have taken the liberty of posting the inspirational quote she shared with us above. My intention is to try to determine what it will elicit in readers of this blog, and to strengthen the points I am about to make. … Read more...

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The Beast of Beauty

by Shannon O’Neill, M.A.

It starts at a young age as little girls hear statements such as, “Hi there, beautiful!” or “Look how pretty you are!” It seems natural to converse with a child in this way. Unfortunately, an adult’s attempt to make a little girl feel special, teaches her the external requirements needed to obtain attention and approval.

As little girls grow to be women, society continuously demands that we strive for unattainable perfection. Businesses have recently caught on and, in an attempt to remain innovative, have redefined beauty by challenging the stereotypical image of perfection.… Read more...

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Enjoying the Moment

by William Taboas, M.A. 

I am currently writing this entry while on vacation, and I’m sure my co-workers and co-fellows would find that ludicrous. Regardless, being on vacation doesn’t mean that I do not have any responsibilities to fulfill when I get back! Typically, I dread and avoid tackling some of these responsibilities, since I view them as low-rewarding chores. But there are a few thoughts and moments I want to share. They took place atop of a hiking trail on the Nevada state line, overlooking Lake Tahoe.… Read more...

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Live from New York, it’s FNL!

Friday Night Live (FNL) is offered twice monthly at the Albert Ellis Institute (dates: http://albertellis.org/friday-night-live/) and runs from 7:00PM to 8:30PM.   An REBT specialist leads the event and asks the audience for two volunteers who are willing to present a problem.  Attendees that do not present a problem have time to ask questions about the demonstration.

In case you missed it, here’s a synopsis from last Friday’s exciting FNL with John Viterito, LPC.  John informed the audience that he would demonstrate specific techniques of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), the founding form of Cognitive-Behavior Therapy (CBT). … Read more...

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Me, Myself, and I

 by Brooke Guttenberg, M.S. 

What happens when we begin to put other people’s reactions and feelings before our own? I think this is a pretty important question to consider. My hypothesis is that this question can be answered a number of ways. Some of us may think, “I must put others before myself otherwise I would be selfish.” Another person may think “I should always be putting myself first and others in my life second.” These responses land on pretty opposite ends of the spectrum.… Read more...

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Why Must We Be Happy? Part 4

by Deniz Sidali, M.A. 

As I discussed in my previous blog(s), being happy is a mindset. If we want to truly experience happiness,  it should not be  seen as a goal or contingent on something happening (such as, winning the lottery, marrying Mr. or Ms. Right, getting a promotion or salary increase, etc.) or relying on chance.  Happiness does not entail externalizing the locus of one’s control over his/her life. If you choose to believe that your happiness is contingent upon external events or material possessions, don’t be surprised if happiness eludes you.… Read more...

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The 10 (Rational) Commandments – Part 2 of 2

by Ennio Ammendola, M.A. 

My most recent blog was about being irrational, this blog is about being rational.

Let’s suppose that you read my previous blog that identified the 10 Irrational Commandments, and that after several weeks of intense PRACTICE you are now living your life based on the new 10 Rational Commandments.

You can finally describe your life as being characterized by a super flexible (as opposed to super rigid) set of principles related to school, work and relationships.… Read more...

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