Our latest blog by Shannon O’Neill, M.A.
We have all heard the well-known rhetorical question “Is the glass half empty or half full?” Today, I suggest an alternative way to assess your perspective by asking, “Which pair of glasses do I choose to wear today?” The familiar expression, “looking through rose-colored glasses,” suggests the optimism of an individual’s viewpoint. But what kind of glasses are we wearing when we interpret events pessimistically?
Countless events in this world are extraordinarily tragic; however, there are also many everyday annoyances that we interpret to be just as dreadful. In these moments, it is as if we have chosen to interpret the world through amber-colored glasses. When you wear these glasses, naturally everything around you looks dull and lifeless. These perceptions skew reality and therefore, are not to be trusted.
I predictably experience grief and suffering when I interpret events with cynicism. Even if there is negativity within the situation, remaining focused on this piece and generalizing it to the entire circumstance is unhelpful. When wearing amber-colored glasses, I am emotionally and physically drained, causing my situation to intensify. When you notice yourself viewing a situation so negatively, why not stop for a moment and reconsider what would be more helpful? Pragmatically question yourself asking, “How is holding this perspective benefiting me? What useful purpose is it serving?” Rather than scanning the world for negativity, consider the neutral or optimistic route instead. Although this takes a very conscious and repetitive effort, the amber-colored glasses will not remove themselves. Which pair of glasses will you choose to wear today?
“Our attitudes create filters to color the way in which we see the world”
-Author Unknown
