by Elissa Habinsky, M.A, M.S. 

Summer is a transient time. The weather changes, and for many people so do their schedules (summer fridays), work attire, recreational activities (vacations, outdoor sports etc.) among other things. While many of these changes may be seen as positives, even positive change can activate feelings of anxiety. Why is this so? This type of anxiety can often be explained by the fact that change, small or large, is regularly associated with a particular level of uncertainty. For example, when one goes on vacation, many things are unknown. Will the flight be on time? Will the weather be good? Will the hotel be nice? Not having certainty about such outcomes can result in further worrying or “what-iffing” about potential negative events. These lines of thinking can all be boiled down to irrational beliefs about needing to have certainty or control over one’s life or situation.

However, the reality is, that during times of change, whether good or bad, there is a loss of control or certainty. Therefore, understanding this reality and accepting it, is the first step to coping with change more successfully. Secondly, engaging in healthy self-talk can also ease periods of change or adjustment.  Saying to yourself, “I can’t control everything, but I may be able to control some things” is a healthier alternative that can result in a more functional emotion than anxiety such as concern.

Furthermore, it is highly unlikely that one will feel calm during times of upheaval.  Therefore knowing this, and anticipating a certain level of concern is helpful so one has realistic expectations, and can best prepare for the upcoming transition.

Elissa Habinsky