Breaking Down Breakups

Breakups suck. Nobody likes them, yet most of us have gone through them. I certainly have experienced my fair share of them. Often after a breakup, I find myself reflecting on how I thought the relationship went and what I

Combating the Post-Summer Blues

It’s that time of year again. The summer season is ending (or completely over, depending on how you view things) and we are saying goodbye to the warm weather, the long days, and for those where it applies, to summer

For Whose Benefit Do You Act?

The other day I was supposed to hang out with my girlfriend and some friends to watch a movie. She messaged me in the early afternoon asking if we could get a raincheck because she wasn’t feeling well and wanted

Love Yourself - The Role of Self-Compassion in REBT

Imagine a friend who constantly criticizes themselves after a mistake. You’d likely offer them supportive words, reminding them that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s okay to be imperfect. It’s easy to show them kindness and understanding, right? Now, what

Beauty is in the Eye of a New Yorker

Awaking in my tiny New York apartment, I find myself waiting for my third roommate to vacate the bathroom so I can quickly prepare for the day and catch the next train. As I brush my teeth, I notice a

Believe Me, I’m Ms. Irrational

I’m sure I, and many others, have encountered these so-called “friends.” I’m quite familiar with Ms. Perfectionism and her relentless “musts” and “shoulds,” her brother Catastrophizing with his alarming “ifs” and “thens,” and a host of other beliefs that push

The Dangers of Self Comparison

It is human nature to compare ourselves to those around us. We often find ourselves measuring our worth against others. We may believe that X is funnier than us, Y is smarter than us, or Z is more successful than