Effective Complaining
William R. Taboas, M.A. We all complain. Grumbling, criticizing and whining are all common behaviors we engage in on our day to day activities. But do you ever wonder if you complain too much? Has anyone said that you’re a
USA
Shannon O’Neill, MA Let me begin by asking you a question: What would it take for you to consider yourself successful? -A prestigious career? -A sizable bank account? -A thinner figure? Although individually defined, the pressure for success can take
The Practice of REBT Equals the Practice of REBT
Ennio Ammendola, M.A. Three years ago, I started taking professional drum lessons with the expectations (better framed as illusions) that I was going to become a good drummer with just one hour a week of practice. This illusion went on
Emotional Intolerance
Kristen Tobias, M.A. This blog is the second of four that will expound on the types of frustration intolerance (FI) discussed in my previous entry, Not All Frustrations are Created Equal. Emotional intolerance is a dimension of FI that encompasses
The Dangers of Comparison
Magda Murawska, M.Ed. I hope that I am not alone what I recall the following scenario – Sitting at a table with friends, I listen to them discuss their accounts of job promotions and various exciting life experiences. Happy and
Predicting the Present
Brooke Guttenberg, M.S. At one time or another we have all tried to predict the future. We may picture ourselves five years down the road and wonder where we will end up. Usually, the most interesting part of that game
Entitlitis
Kristen Tobias, M.A. This blog is one of four that will expound on the types of frustration intolerance (FI) discussed in my last entry, Not All Frustrations are Created Equal. Entitlitis is a word that has insidiously slipped into American
Leaving Therapy and Staying on Track
Shonda Lackey, Ph.D. So, you’ve been in therapy for a while. How do you know when it’s time to leave? Assuming there were no ruptures in the professional relationship with your therapist, you may consider ending treatment once you’ve achieved
Not All Frustrations Are Created Equal
Kristen Tobias, M.A. Frustration intolerance (FI), or low frustration tolerance (LFT), refers to a meta-cognitive process wherein individuals think that they cannot stand something. In the theory of REBT, FI is conceptualized as a core irrational belief, or a universal
Why Life is More Similar to the World Cup Than You Thought
Brooke Guttenberg, M.S. Over the past month, all over the world, the World Cup has gained a lot of attention. For someone like me who was never a big soccer fan, I was surprised to find that I have been