by Kristen Tobias, M.A. The adage “Time Heals all Wounds” is commonly cited. Does time actually heal all wounds? Probably not, some wounds are so profound that they will be felt for a lifetime. But there does seem to be
By Shannon O’Neill, M.A. Emotions can be uncomfortable, so much to the point of avoidance. Some may choose to suppress feelings and/or avoid situations, believing the emotion is inevitably linked to an unpleasant past event. As an individual begins to
by William Taboas, M.A. One of the aspects of Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) that got me hooked was the emphasis on clinically addressing complex negative emotions (e.g., embarrassment, jealousy, envy, shame, contempt) beyond the typical basic negative
by Deniz Sidali, M.A. One of my strongest virtues as a therapist is my inordinate patience. Sometimes I wonder whether this virtue may be my vice. Having excessive patience with certain clients can have drawbacks such as people taking liberties,
by Brooke Guttenberg, M.S. The other day I was sitting down with a friend to catch-up, and within minutes I realized her intentions. Her eyes were laser focused, her tone of voice was higher than usual, and her speech was
by Kristen Tobias, M.A. The goal of REBT, and other forms of CBT, is to facilitate an emotional shift. This goal is largely accomplished by causing a transformation in the way that individuals think, which is achieved by dialogue between
by Shannon O’Neill, MA What is your biggest concern at the present moment? Finances? Health? Relationships? Regardless of the topic, I can safely assume 100% certainty is nonexistent. Therefore, if control is truly limited, why do we choose to obsess
by William R. Taboas, MA Human beings are irrational thinkers by nature. But despite our irrationality, we are also capable of thinking rationally. It takes deliberate effort for us to think rationally. While philosophers, historians, and casual observers alike have
Last week, while coming back from a domestic flight, I met a gentleman on the AirTrain from JFK Airport to Jamaica Station. He looked at me and said, “What a day!” I looked at him and replied, “You’re right. What
by Kristen Tobias, M.A. I refer to infidelity to mean engagement in a behavior with another person that violates an overt or covert romantic agreement between two adults existing in a free environment. My definition of infidelity, like all others,